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A dreamer's legacy

 

By Roland Warren

 

 

     
 

This summer I spent some vacation time in Atlanta, Georgia with my family. While there, my youngest son, Justin and I, made a pilgrimage to the Ebenezer Baptist Church: the home church of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and the birthplace of much of the civil rights movement. In addition to being a place of worship, Ebenezer Baptist Church is now a historic landmark and teaching facility for those interested in learning more about Dr. King and the civil rights movement. As I entered, the simple grandeur of the place struck me. The well-worn pews stood proudly in the immaculate sanctuary. Speakers played recordings of some of Dr. King's most famous speeches and I immediately returned to 1965. I heard the applause. I joined the chorus of "Amen's." I was really there, part of the struggle…part of that great movement.

I was snatched back to the year 2002, however, when one of the national park rangers, who was assigned to the church, lowered the volume on the speakers so that he could give a prepared speech. Now, I must admit that I became a bit annoyed at this point because I thought, "What can this guy tell me about Dr. King that I don't already know? I am a black child of the 60's. I remember when he was shot. I read about him in school. I have seen countless documentaries on the civil rights movement."

But the learned park ranger surprised me. He didn't start his presentation by talking about Dr. King or the famous civil rights marches or even Ebenezer Baptist Church. He started by pointing to two stained glass windows to his left and to his right, which bore the pictures of Dr. King's maternal grandfather, Reverend A.D. Williams, and his father Reverend Martin Luther King, Sr.

I learned that Reverend Williams, who served as the pastor of Ebenezer Baptist Church for 37 years, was an eloquent speaker and noted local political activist who contributed his efforts-and meeting space in his church-to a number of organizations dedicated to the education and social advancement of black citizens.

On Thanksgiving Day 1926, Williams' daughter Alberta married Martin Luther King, Sr., a young minister. The couple moved into an upstairs room in Williams' home. King, Sr. worked weekdays, preached Sundays, and spent evenings at Morehouse College studying towards his divinity degree.

Reverend Williams mentored King, Sr. and upon Williams' death in 1931, King Sr., or "Daddy King" as he was affectionately known, took over as pastor of Ebenezer Baptist Church. Like his father-in-law, Daddy King's ministry focused distinctly on social justice and he sought to engage and empower all black citizens in his community. In fact, he once proclaimed the Ebenezer Baptist Church as a home for everyone "from Ph.D.'s to no D's."

Daddy King was an involved father who always stressed the importance of education to Martin Jr. and his other children. He embraced the concept that parenting is a creative process. He did not sit his son down one day when he was 13 and say, "Son, let's talk about what it means to be a man." He understood that this type of "discussion" had to take place over the course of his son's entire life.

One example of his enlightened approach to parenting was in the way he taught his children about the importance of education. Before Martin Jr. could read, he kept books around him so that he would grow up as someone who viewed books and learning as part of his life, not as something to "pick up" in school. Assuredly, it's no surprise that Martin Luther King, Jr. graduated from Morehouse College at 19, and before turning 27, he earned two additional degrees, a Bachelor of Divinity from Crozer Theological Seminary and a Ph.D. in theology from Boston University.

In terms of his son's spirituality, King, Sr. understood that this was a gift he could impart to his child at a very early age. He knew that the most powerful way to create a healthily spiritual adult - a leader - was to grow together with his son in their faith.

To raise a well-educated child, King Sr. did not just tell young Martin about books, he allowed him to grow up with books. Likewise, he did not tell his son about faith, he raised his son to live and grow in their faith together.

Five-year-old Martin Jr. formally joined his father's church in 1934. The young King preached his first sermon under the guiding hand of his father at age 17 and soon joined him as co-pastor. In 1957, Ebenezer Baptist Church held an organizational meeting for the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC). Martin Luther King Jr. became the first president of the SCLC, an important organization at the forefront of the civil rights movement. And the rest, as they say, is history.

As the park ranger closed his presentation, I was struck by one realization and one question. I realized that generations before Dr. King uttered the now immortal words, "I Have A Dream", there were others-a grandfather and a father-who instilled great dreams in him and had great dream for him. He was the product of a legacy…a fatherhood legacy. The question: What would have been the legacy of the great dreamer Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., if he did not have the guidance, nurturance and support of those important dreamers who came before him?

Stories like this one are the reason I have devoted my life to making sure that every child grows up with a father who sees how important he is to his children - fathers who are devoted to leaving a positive legacy for their children.
If any of this sounds nebulous, just think about the story of Martin Luther King, Jr. What if his father did not know how important he was to his son? What if he did not realize that he had the power to unlock the potential in a young man who eventually became one of our country's greatest leaders and heroes? And then think of the thousands, and even millions of children who are potential leaders and heroes who do not have the benefit of a nurturing, loving father. We seek to turn every father into one like Martin Luther King, Sr. … a father who has a dream for his children.

 
     
 
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Roland Warren is President of the National Fatherhood Initiative. The organization's mission is to improve the well being of children by increasing the proportion of children who grow up with involved, responsible, and committed fathers in their lives. NFI runs a series of television, radio, print, internet, and outdoor Public Service Announcements to show fathers that they matter to their children and to show our culture that children need their fathers. NFI conducts research and offers training programs throughout the country to help organizations which are at the nexus of children and families work more effectively with that oft overlooked part of the family - the father. See website: fatherhood.org.

 
     

 

     
   
     

 

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